Dares for couples

More slow and safe: backdoor play

Extra Backdoor cards across every tier — external touch and rimming through to penetration, always with lots of lube and the receiver fully in control of the pace.

Level 2Set the safe word firstAgree a word that means stop right now, and remind each other that your partner controls everything from here.
Level 2Massage, not yet moreMassage your partner's lower back and cheeks slowly, getting them relaxed and warm without going anywhere near further yet.
Level 2Lube on standbyWarm a generous amount of lube in your hands and spread it slowly over your partner, making clear there's plenty more.
Level 2Light outside touchStroke your partner gently on the outside only, slow circles with a well-lubed fingertip, no pressure to go in.
Level 3Breathe them openRest a lubed fingertip against your partner and have them breathe out slowly — you only ease in as they relax, never before.
Level 3Rimming, slowUse your mouth and tongue on your partner externally, soft and unhurried, while a hand keeps the rest of them stimulated.
Level 3Just the tip of a fingerEase just the very tip of a well-lubed finger into your partner and hold completely still, letting them push if they want more.
Level 3They push, you holdyou stays totally still while your partner eases back at their own pace — their body opens on its own, never pushed.
Level 3More lube, alwaysStop and add more lube than feels necessary on your partner and yourself — if anything drags at all, that's the cue for more.
Level 3Outside and in at onceWhile you gently work a fingertip, keep your partner stimulated at the front with your other hand so it all blends together.
Level 3Slow circles insideWith one finger eased in and your partner relaxed, move in slow gentle circles rather than in and out, watching their face.
Level 3Check in out loudAsk your partner how it feels and whether they want more, the same, or to pause — and do exactly what they say.
Level 4Two fingers, their callOnly if your partner asks, add a second well-lubed finger as slowly as the first, pausing at any sign to wait.
Level 4A small toy, eased inIntroduce a small, flared-base toy with plenty of lube, letting your partner set the pace and stopping the instant they say.
Level 4Hold still and let them adjustWhenever your partner takes a little more, stop and hold completely still until they've adjusted and ask for the next bit.
Level 4Front and back togetherKeep your partner stimulated at the front with your hand or a toy while you work slowly at the back — pleasure first, always.
Level 4Tease at the entrancePress just barely against your partner and pull back, again and again, until they're the one pushing for more.
Level 4Their hand guides youyour partner keeps a hand on yours the whole time, controlling exactly how deep and how fast — you follow their lead completely.
Level 4Slow in, slow outWith your partner fully relaxed and slick, move a finger or toy in and out at a slow, even pace they've okayed.
Level 4Pause and breatheStop wherever you are, have your partner take a slow breath out, and only continue on the exhale — relaxed, never tense.
Level 4Eased in, holdingyour partner eases back onto you bit by bit while you stays perfectly still — they take only as much as feels good.

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